      |
|---|
国際結婚・婚活情報・Kaiwa-USAフォーラムページ
|
|---|
こんにちはNaokoです。
先回のメルマガの件
私のコメントは次回にということで
少しだけ
経験から、日本人女性と結婚したい欧米人男性を分析すると
■日本文化を愛し伝統的日本人女性を求める欧米人男性
■欧米的独立心と高い英語スキルを女性に求める欧米人男性
■日本人限定せずアジアのエキゾチックな女性を求める欧米人男性
■ただ単に、アメリカ人女性をパートナーとして選びたくない欧米人男性
■ただ単に、自分とは違う要素を含んだ女性に憧れる欧米人男性
理由もさまざまです。
これに対して、欧米人男性と結婚したい日本人女性を分析すると
■外国で暮らし、欧米人の振る舞いが心地よいト感じる日本人女性
■閉鎖的封建的日本の縦社会から脱出し自分の能力を試したい女性
■欧米人に限定せず、自分の世界観、探究心を広げたい日本人女性
■ただ単に、日本人男性をパートナーとして選びたくない日本人女性
■ただ単に、自分とは違う要素を含んだ男性に憧れる日本人女性
やはり、さまざまです。
私は
さまざまな理由がお互いにあるので
どういう理由だからいいとか悪いとか
そういう観点では見ていません。
さまざまなニーズがあるから
さまざまなチャンスがあるように
また、
違った考え方の方々の考えに耳を傾けることによって
新たな価値観や出会いの可能性が生まれればよいと思っています。
実はつい最近も電話で
『バナナのような日本人女性は嫌だ！』
と、欧米人男性に言われて
『それ、どういう意味ですか？』とお聞きすると、
『見た目は日本人。でも皮をむいた中身は白人。』
だそうで
私は大笑いしてしまいましたが
（考えてみたらかなり失礼ですよね？？？）
本人大真面目で
その方はAuthentic な日本人に出会いたいそうです。
これを聞いて私自身
海外に長く住んでも
伝統的な日本人らしさや
気品を忘れないようにしないといけないなぁ。と、改めて思いました。
と、同時に海外では強く生きなくてはいけないんですけどね。
バランスですかね。
みなさんからのメッセージもたくさんいただきました。
ありがとうございました。
ここからが本題です。
↓ ↓ ↓
年末年始に
海外に住むボーフレンドに会いに行く女性は多いと思います。
その際に知っていて欲しいこと
海外、特に、アメリカにグループツアーでなく
独身女性が単独で渡航される場合に
（渡航の理由が観光であっても）
入国する際のイミグレ通過時に
別室で拘束されるということがよくあるらしく
こんなことがありました。
と、いうことを女性の方が書いてくださいましたので
ご紹介します。
以下、英語
----------＜ ココ から ＞----------
Every time I travel to the US, going through immigration is the worst part of the trip.
It is frustrating and process sometimes seems to kill the souls of those behind the counter no matter which country they are in. Standing in line (the immigration line for non-residents is beyond belief), waiting with many other non-residents, and dealing with the clerk, who looked like they had never smiled in their entire life, looked at me like I was a murderer trying to ask for a knife. (I do not think that my Passport picture look like I where shoved up against a wall for a mug shot though.)
This sounds like an unbelievable story, but it happened to me. I was not detained and interrogated by US Immigration when I arrived in the U.S. two years ago for visiting my girlfriend, but yeah, it was a pretty awful experience. It appears that the immigration people simply did not believe that I was visiting my girlfriend. This is insane. They took me to the other room (not including a humiliating strip search. Phew.) asking me if I really was visiting my boyfriend. Which I understand could be a red flag in itself, because it can make immigration people simply very concerned that I am planning to get married while I was in the country. I assured immigration people I had no intention of doing so. Hey! I was visiting my girlfriend! Really! I know that they are trained to spot certain behaviors that may be suspicious. But I was completely innocent( like I said, I really was visiting my girlfriend...not boyfriend. Well I wish... but I have no luck with that though.) and just have a lot of worries on my mind I guess. And you know if you make them feel that you are very nervous they will become suspicious. Immigration officers was very interested in questioning me with several additional options such as ‘How did you meet this friend? ', 'What is your occupation?', 'What do you do for XYZ company?', ‘What is your position?’, and ‘what town do you live in?' etc... Honestly though, I felt angry though. I am not a drug trafficker or intend to commit a crime. However; Immigration officers have the power to deny you entry to a country, so I kept being honest but be straight and to the point. I would not say that this appears to be disgraceful behavior on their part, because immigration officers play an important role in international security...but yeah, it was a pretty awful experience. Eventually, I was allowed to pass through though.
And there is another story... This time, I was asked to get my luggage and 'go to that room' after trying to get through at customs when I visited another friend in the U.S. The guy in there was very brisk and unfriendly( I know they just doing their job but still... you know) and immediately took to a thorough search of my luggage (including my very personal belonging too) and lots of questions about the purpose of my visit. I do not remember the details very clearly, and the details aren't yet clear on exactly why I was asked to get my luggage and I do not know why it went down. The guy at the desk asked what the real purpose of my visit was, and I told him I was on holidays and I was visiting my friend. He also asked how long I intended to stay, and I told him 8 days. He said I can not stay longer than 90 days, I told him I knew that and would not. He asked how much money I had with me. He also asked some other questions, but I don't remember them. Eventually, I was allowed to pass through though-- having re-packed my luggage myself, of course.
Every single time when I go through U.S. immigration... I would have to have a lot of worries on my mind. It may help to show that I have a job, savings, family back in Japan which proves that I have ties requiring me to go home and honesty is usually the best policy? But telling customs I'm here for visiting my boyfriend is almost definitely a bad idea. This could be a red flag in itself, because it can make immigration people simply very concerned that I am planning to get married while I was in the country. So the best course is to say I am merely visiting a friend, and leave out all the romantic stuff? But at the same time, I would think is lying to customs like this likely to get me in trouble somewhere down the line? Can they check up on this stuff? Do not ever lie to immigration. I should to be clear on how honest I should be about this. But maybe don't lie, but be having a decent story straight and stick to it? During the questioning obviously do not lie but never volunteer extra information? Just answer the basic question? Simply say I am visiting a friend? If they want more details by asking more questions then just answer them as they come? I believe that I do not have to the official everything about my life? etc...
So, I hope you now have some ideas of going through immigration can be very frustrating for Japanese travelers arriving in the US. Especially single woman can stand out repeatedly. Really. There is not much you can do about it. If your lady decides to say that she is visiting a friend, it can be nice for her to have someone that they can call to corroborate her story. I have no idea what sort of information they store, but it seems likely to me that they're going to ask something about her boyfriend(could be you), or be suspicious that she is now returning to the same area, but this time visiting a ' friend '.
Please, always remember for your beautiful Japanese lady, that Immigration officers have the power to deny her entry to your country, and they can ask for the phone number of her boyfriend (could be you) and call him (could be you) to corroborate her story. Additionally please keep in mind for your lady that U.S. immigration laws are changing constantly.
----------＜ ココ まで ＞----------
女性が何度も渡米することにより
女性はアメリカ入国の際にイミグレで
要らない心配をしなければならず
“アンフェアーである”
と、いうことをKaiwa-USA男性メンバーに
リアルに伝わるように
その事実を男性が知ることによって
早く、女性が安心できるような環境を
男性に作り出してもらえるよう促すために
男性側のニュースレターでもご紹介できるよう
英語で書いてもらいました。
ありがとうございます。（感謝）
この、
空港イミグレで別室に呼ばれて
拘束されるという件は
複数報告されているのですが
移民弁護士にお聞きしたところ
そのようなことは聞いたことは無いが
テロ事件９１１以降空港での検査が厳しくなっているので
（それでも日本人へのチェックは比較的厳しくないということ）
短期間に何度も米国に入国したりすると
イミグレでのチェックリストになにかが引っかかるのではないか？
ということでした。
その、“何か？”というのは
私の聞いた弁護士さんにはわからないそうです。
私自身は弁護士ではないので
リーガルアドバイスはできません。
ごめんなさい。
ただ、このメルマガに記載することで
これから
単独に渡米を計画されている方々に
万が一（どのくらいの確立かわかりませんが）
米国空港のイミグレで
別室に呼ばれ拘束されることがあるかもしれないということを
ひとつの事例として知っていると
事前に対策を考えることもできる
ショックを受けなくてもすむ
検査官に対して冷静な対応ができる
ポジティブでいられるように
そんな思いをこめています。
知っているか、知らないかによって気持ち的に
違いますもんね。
日本人は90日間ビザ免除プログラムで
観光ができることになっているので
渡米すること自体は違法ではないので
冷静に（英語できちんと）状況を説明して開放された
という経験談はいただいています。
拘束時間や質問内容は検査官によるようです。
年末年始に渡米をされる女性のみなさま
楽しい旅行になりますよう！
Naoko : 国際結婚の幸せプロデューサー
アメリカ国際結婚・婚活サポート